Thursday, 4 February 2010

It's All About The Confidence!

Just before I sat down to write this, I was freezing my ass off in this cold weather!  That was soon sorted though with a hot chocolate and a blanket.. I'm now as snug as a bug in a rug and my joints have stopped whinging.

The theme for this post is a fairly simple one.... Its all about the confience and for those of you who are Gok Wan fans, you'll know exactly what I mean.

Confidence was something I certainly lacked last year, especially after having 2 total hip replacements in the space of 7 months.  Discovering my arthritis had also come out of remission was like a kick in the teeth.... Its bad enough having something that is still very much considered an old persons condition, but arthritis can also rob you of your femininity.  You dare not wear any dress or skirt that shows your puffed up knees, and if your ankles are competing with Mr Blobby then its trousers for you!

As for the footwear... I love shoes, I'm a girly girl and I love heels, but they don't like me.  Even with kitten heels I have to be careful because I tend to walk on my heels so give me a tiled floor and I skid!

Next week I am seeing a podiatrist to discuss 'specialist footwear' and I am dreading it.  I have been reassured that things have changed a lot and its no longer ugly, brown clodhoppers.  Will just have to wait and see on that one...

Anyway, after being captivated by the latest 'How to Look Good Naked...... With a Difference' it got me thinking about how we deal with confidence in our own ways.  Mine has certainly improved over the last few months....

For me, its music... music for the soul.  Certain tunes remind me I'm alive, and as I shake my tush I definitely start to feel girly.  Those tunes include Lady Gaga - Bad Romance, The Pussycat Dolls - Buttons, Beyonce - Freakum Dress, Prince - Get Off and Sugababes - Girls.

Yesterday morning I decided to have a pamper.... starting of with a facial mud mask, I intrigued the parrot by looking like a smurf.... Next was turning the tunes up loud while I had a hot shower (something my joints love!) and indulging my senses with the black cherry & nutmeg shower gel.  I'm sure my neighbours love my singing, especially to songs like Katy Perry - I Kissed a Girl and Girls Aloud - Love is the Key.

As I get ready, the singing continues.... sometimes my imagination throws me into a pop video, or a photo shoot... I imagine myself as one of the models, and yes I have occasionally caught myself pouting in the mirror lol...but you know what... its gives me the confidence for the day and puts a spring in my step.

For those of you who discovered Glee... you'll certainly know the background to Beyonce - Single Ladies.... For those of you who haven't a clue then this sums up confidence......

Glee Teaser: Single Ladies

The other thing that I have decided to do to boost my confidence is to put 2 photographs of me on the fridge.  This is to help me hopefully keep to my diet and also remind me that I can be gorgeous even if I don't feel it at the time.... If my mind can conceive it and my heart can believe it, I know I can achieve it!


To wish you were someone else, is to waste the person you are....

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  1. To wish you were someone else, is to waste the person you are....

    This is absolutely true. Wish I had learned this much earlier in my life but it's one "gift" RA is giving me.

    Thanks for your post.